Too often do young jazz musicians prioritize their career and "image" over the relationships they have with their friends and loved ones. While it's true that you owe it to yourself to do everything in your power to achieve your personal goals, it must not come at the cost of compromising your relationships (or possible relationships) with other people. Again, I'm primarily speaking on behalf of Jazz/Collective music. It doesn't take much brilliance to notice when a band sounds together and conversely, it's easy to tell when a band sounds utterly disjointed. Some of the worst musical synergy I've ever seen has been from bands comprised of exclusively brilliant musicians. This isn't to say that that you shouldn't hire Joshua Redman or Christian McBride for some gig you have at a "mid-tier" New York Jazz Venue, but if you are going to do such a thing, make an effort to truly befriend and get to know them on a human level rather than "strictly business" or to "draw a crowd" because I promise you this; Two months from now, no working jazz musician (or any musician, artist, or person) will even remember your name unless you treat them like another human being. Idolizing someone you look up to musically is just as dehumanizing as using them for the sake of your own notoriety. Remember, if you're a jazz musician you play jazz because you love it, but if all you're looking for is fame, wealth and recognition, you've chosen an exceedingly incorrect career path.